What Are You Willing To Do To Save Your Marriage?
Are you willing to do almost anything to save your marriage?
Sometimes, a spouse makes a terrible mistake. Serious transgressions, such as adultery, often result in the end of a marriage. Some realize how horrible of a mistake they made, but fear it is
too late. That’s when you need to decide what you would be willing to do to save your marriage.
Here’s an example of what often happens. The husband cheats on the wife. The wife finds out. The husband really does love his wife, and says he wants to try to make it work. The woman he had the affair with often has to travel with him on business. The wife asks the husband to try and be moved to a different department. He refuses.
She asks him to try to see if there is a way for him not to have to travel with her anymore. He refuses. She asks him to call her so the wife can hear with her own ears that the husband has ended it. He refuses.
The wife starts checking his cell phone when he walks in the door, and asking him where he has been if he comes home late. He gets upset, and accuses her of being controlling.
See the problem? The husband who said he wanted to make it work is unwilling to do anything that the wife asks of him. It seem he didn’t give the question “what are you willing to do to save your marriage” much thought.
On the other end of the spectrum are spouses who were unfaithful yet are willing to do almost anything that their partner asks of them. How far would you go to save your marriage?
The Security of Your Spouse
In the aftermath of an affair, the feelings of security that your spouse once had have been completely shattered. They will not trust their spouse, and rightly so. The trust between husband and wife has been broken.
It further damages the marriage when the spouse who cheated is unwilling to take steps to help and restore that sense of security.
If you are serious about doing what it takes to save your marriage, then this should be priority one.
Time Can Heal…But it Takes TIME
In the weeks and months following the day the spouse found out about the affair, the spouse who cheated may grow impatient with the questions and the checking up being done by his or her spouse.
If the affair truly has ended, they don’t understand why their spouse won’t just trust them again. What they are failing to consider is that healing from such a serious emotional trauma takes time.
The length of time will vary based on a number of circumstances, but you cannot rush the process by getting angry or annoyed at your spouse.
If you say that you want to stay, but seem unwilling to do much of anything to save your marriage, you need to ask yourself what you really want.
If you plan to continue the affair, then why stay in the marriage and do even more damage to your spouse?
By figuring out what you would be willing to do to save your marriage, you might be able to find out if you really want to be in the marriage at all.