Magic Of Making Up By Effective Apologies
Proper apologies for magic of making up.
Contrary to popular belief, arguments do not destroy a relationship. A lot of good can actually come out of a disagreement. There is a tendency for the couple to talk more and feel much closer afterwards. Such is the magic of making up. What sets most relationships on the path of a disaster is the inability to handle such arguments well. Most of the time, this is because one or both individuals cannot muster the words “I’m sorry.”
One method to ensure that the apology gets across is to say it only if you
mean it. It is not enough for these words to exist in the vocabulary – they actually have to mean something. For the person saying it, sincerity and a genuine intention to make amends has to be the driving force. Never apologize if the intention is to be sarcastic, to show off, or to shut the person up. Most likely, the other person will recognize the fakeness of it and end up being more offended.
Also, some people respond to the apology if it is accompanied by something tangible. Enhance the magic of making up by saying sorry with some flowers or a thoughtful gesture. It does not have to be anything extravagant. Say sorry and give the other person a hug to emphasize the point. Extra signs of affection can communicate more than words for some people.
The magic of making up will be lost if the apology is coupled with anger. Make sure that the confrontation has waned before apologizing. That way, what is expressed is said calmly and sincerely. Take note that once an apology has been said, there is no need to pick up the fight where it left off. Otherwise, it would negate the purpose of saying sorry. If the issue has not yet been resolved, opt for a dialogue rather than a fight.
A misconception in apologizing is that the person who apologizes is the one who started the fight to begin with. Sometimes, even the person who was hurt has to say sorry too. It can be because an individual was too sensitive or responded with anger at the other person. Feeling the hurt does not mean that you are excused from having to say sorry if you also hurt the other person. The magic of making up is largely based on mutual respect so this equality of terms has to be present.
Finally, a sense of humor can be quite helpful in apologizing. Not all apologies have to be serious in order to be heartfelt. Just make sure that it is the appropriate situation and depends on the gravity of the offense. For example, forgetting to take out a trash can call for a joke or two but infidelity is not to be taken lightly under any circumstances. Laughter can diffuse arguments and anger. Being able to relax with another person shows love and demonstrates closeness. You will be surprised at how fast the magic of making up occurs when it is coupled with the relief that good times are up ahead.